Learning You’re a Switch

“Figure out if you are a switch or not”


When many people decide to venture into the world of BDSM, they may go in thinking that they either have to be a sub or a Dom. However, as you get further into the BDSM lifestyle, you may come to realize that you enjoy both of these positions equally. For those of us who enjoy being both sub and Dom at different times, for different reasons, and with different people, we can safely come to the conclusion that we are switches. As far as we are concerned, switches have the best of both worlds. They know what it feels like to be in total control, but they also know how it feels to relinquish that control to a Dom that they trust. If you are not sure whether or not you are a switch, there are a few things you can do to help narrow down your decision.

Let Your Eyes Guide You

“If you like watching a sub getting punished – you are a Dom”


While checking out the information found on BDSM site reviews can be helpful, another way to help you decide whether or not you are a switch is by watching both a sub and a Dom in action. You can do this by either attending to a performance that you were invited to, or by simply watching porn of a BDSM scene. If while watching the scene in action, you feel like you could easily imagine yourself in both the place of the Dom and the sub, you could quite possibly be a switch. Even if you have the tendency to prefer one position to the other, but still enjoy both positions, you can still consider yourself a switch.

When You Decide to Switch It Up

“It is your decision completely”


If you had previously only performed as one position only, you may be slightly alarmed when you discover that you are a switch, or find yourself longing to switch roles. However, realizing that you are a switch should not be a cause of alarm for you, and if you are someone’s Dom or someone’s sub, it does not necessarily mean that you have to cease being so. Many BDSM site reviews can point you to helpful resources that tell you how you should go about revealing to your Domme or sub that you believe yourself to be a switch, or whether or not you should bother telling them at all.

If you are someone’s sub and you do reveal to your Domme that you are interested in being a switch, she may be willing to let you get your experience with being a Dom, either with her if she is also a switch or with some other willing participant. Your Domme may want to become your mentor and help you to make sure that you are carrying out your role as Dom properly. While the two of you may have difference means of how you carry out your Dom duties, it would be best that you at least take some of her suggestions and considerations into mind. Remember, you trust her enough to allow her to be your Domme, so try to hear her out when she is offering you sound advice that may help you become a good Dom.

If you are Dom and want to experience with being a sub, we recommend that you try contacting Dommes that have a good history and standing in the BDSM world. Whether or not you choose to reveal to your sub your plans of subbing is up to you, but we would like to warn you that keeping secrets from your BDSM relationship does have the tendency to backfire.

If you are unsure of where to begin your search for a Domme, you can start with websites such as FetLife.com which allow you to connect with users and get input on a variety of different BDSM topics.

Fighting Back the Urge

“You need to stick to one side in the middle of a scene”


If you have gotten accustomed to being either a sub or a Dom, it may initially be difficult when you first start performing in the opposite role. It is not unheard of for someone who usually subs to be too easy and soft willed when he or she is acting as Dom. In a similar fashion, it does not come as too much of a shock when someone who is used to being a Dom is mouthy, stubborn, or disobedient when acting as sub. However, this is the reason why you must put some effort into your search when you are looking at BDSM websites and BDSM site reviews.

You want a Dom or sub that understands that you are new to this role, and one who is willing to work with you to help you become good at it. For this reason, you may want to deal with experienced Dommes and perhaps less experienced subs since an experienced Dom has probably seen it all and an inexperienced sub does not yet know what to expect.

Whichever role you are learning, you must make sure that you pay attention to things you see and hear. Individuals that are submissive can teach you just as much as those who are dominate. If you need tips or suggestions, try connecting with someone on FetLife.com and ask for different opinions and stories to help you out.

Taking Turns

“You can take turns”


It is not as commonly acted out as some other things in the BDSM world, but there is a possibility that you could have a relationship with another switch and the two of you could take turns switching roles. While it is more common for the two of you to have set days where one of you is Dom and the other is sub, it is not impossible for the two of you to switch during the middle of a scene. This practice might not be something you want to try right away, especially if you are still new to becoming a sub or a Dom. There are too many mixed signals and too many chances for miscommunication if you take this route without fully understanding what the two of you are doing.

However, you know what is best for you and we assume that your partner knows what is best for them. A lot of what goes into the BDSM lifestyle involves trial and error. If you have your mind set on learning to switch within a scene, you will have to make sure you learn about all the consequences and how to handle when things go wrong. While there is a general idea of how BDSM relationships work, not two relationships are exactly alike and you can’t be expecting to adhere to how everyone else carries out their relationships.

There is nothing wrong with switching and you may find that you enjoy it more than sticking to one specific role. But like any role, whether you are Dom or sub, you have to follow rules to make sure that you and your partner are both safe and happy before, during, and after a scene. As with any other relationship, being involved in a BDSM relationship involves honesty, understanding, and communication. If you are not getting these things while you are in a relationship, it may be time to excuse yourself from it. You should get back online and start looking for a new BDSM partner. But do not forget to check out the review of the sites first at thekinkyfactory.com. You can also check the comparison of the sites and their ratings. Whether you want to experience switching permanently, or are just testing it out, make sure you play safe and communicate openly and honestly with the people that you play with. It makes for a more enjoyable scene and life overall.

3 Emerging Social Networks To Keep An Eye On

Businesses all over the world are only concerned with the renowned and established social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter. But there are a number of new social networking sites which are fast emerging and poised to become the next big thing. To stay ahead in the race, one must keep an eye on the emerging social networks too. In case you are still wondering, we are not talking about Tumblr and Instagram here and we are not even suggesting that in the coming days Facebook will lose its sheen. However, we feel one should take note of the following 3 emerging social networks.

1) Medium

Many Medium is more like Twitter but on the contrary it is actually a blogging site. Here one can share news, ideas and stories. The Medium has always maintained that on any given day it prefers quality over quantity which is a noble effort in this digital age. People are invited to write a blog which gets published on the homepage or on one of the many other pages. The position of the post on the page is entirely dependent on the number of vote it receives. The design of Medium is the USP as it is nice, clean and easy to the eye. Any person with a Twitter account can vote on the posts but in order to write something you must have an invite from Medium.

Emerging Social Networks to Keep an Eye On

Emerging Social Networks to Keep an Eye On

2) Whisper

This is basically an iPhone application where users can post secrets. These secrets are known as whispers and they look like an online postcard. The good thing is that all these posts are anonymous. The other users can respond to the post and leave whispers and messages. The application has become very popular among college students and it has received a tremendous boost in way of a funding of $3 million. In fact many experts have said that Whisper would be the next big thing in the networking world. As per statistics the site already boasts of 8 million whispers and around 1 million users.

Eye on the Future: Social Media

Eye on the Future: Social Media

3) Sina Weibo

This is commonly known as China’s answer to Twitter and it has more than double the users of Twitter. The site has received a tremendous boost when fast food giant, Pizza Hut, decided to embrace the site followed by a host of celebrities like Tom Cruise. He has more than 4 million followers on Sina Weibo. The Weibo is also available in a US version but since it is mainly in Mandarin Chinese, it may not have many takers in the long run. The Transfluencer is a very popular service as it helps the American brands post on Weibo. Around 22% of the population of China uses Weibo considering the population of that country that amounts to a huge amount of people.

The 3 above-mentioned social sites can change the future of Facebook and Twitter but the impact is still a couple of years away. Some people and companies will try to remain loyal to Facebook but with the growing popularity of the emerging sites, there is every possibility of a revolution in the social networking world.

3 Dating Habits You Should Avoid At All Costs

Dating is a very fun activity. When going on a date, you will learn more about a person and identify if they can become good long-term partners. Dating is one step to end your long search for love. To make dating more memorable, try avoiding habits that can ruin the occasion. You may think that you are not doing these habits, and you will only know that they exist once they start to ruin your date. So if you want to have a great date, make sure to ditch these 3 habits now.

1. Avoid making yourself the topic

Anyone or any dating expert will tell you that dating is about meeting and getting to know someone deeper. Dating is not merely about you. You might not notice this, but when you are talking with someone for a long time you tend to talk more about your life and experiences. This should not be the case. Avoid this habit when on a date. If your date seems a little shy and not really someone that would start a conversation, ask several questions about him or her. This will not only kill boredom, but will also make your date think that you are interested in them.

First Dates: 8 Bad Habits to Avoid at all Cost!

First Dates: 8 Bad Habits to Avoid at all Cost!

2. Be attentive and don’t be a distraction

One major thing that can leave a bad impression to your date is being inattentive. Losing concentration is common when dating, but this does not mean that you can just let your mind float somewhere else. Avoid being a distraction by doing unnecessary things. Avoid looking around and appearing disinterested. Turn off your cell phone or put it in silent mode. Give your attention to your date and make the most out of this time by knowing the person better. It will help you when making a decision about building a relationship with them or moving on and finding someone else.

How to Avoid Gaining Weight While Dating

How to Avoid Gaining Weight While Dating

3. Don’t think post-date period is useless

Post-date period is very critical. This is where most of the follow-ups happen. This is also the period where both you and your partner can identify if a second date will happen. Most of the activities that happen on this phase include exchanging of calls and text messages. Don’t leave things hanging by not giving a return call or replying to a message. When your date reaches out to you, try to return the favor by also reaching out to them, especially if you are interested in the person.

Finding love is one of the reasons why people date. Don’t leave a bad taste in your date’s mouth by turning them off with your silly dating habits. Identify what your bad dating habits are and start ditching them now. These habits can be the difference between a happy relationship and a bad date. 

Top 3 Foods For Your Anti Belly Bloating Diet

Have you been belching and burping like an overgrown donkey? There is nothing more discomfiting than having abdominal gas. Bloating can be a major source of discomfort by many. Not only it is an indicative of a much serious digestive problem, it can also become an embarrassing habit that you cannot control. To address this harrowing ordeal, there are certain foods that you might want to add on your diet to ensure healthy digestion and prevent, or at least reduce, bloating of your stomach.

There Is Such a Thing as Good Bacteria

Probiotics are renowned for their healthful benefits to good digestion. Products such as yogurt, lactobacilli drinks, cheese and unpasteurized milk are heavy on good bacteria. These foods are high in probiotics or good bacteria which helps maintain the healthy balance in your digestive tract. Try stocking up on these foods the next time you do grocery shopping. You can partner lunch with a cup of yogurt or with a granola bar for snacks. Some people also prefer adding yogurt to their fresh fruit smoothies for better taste. Lactobacilli drinks can also be bought in an on-the-go case which you can easily slurp while en route to your office or to an important meeting. You would not want to belch while presenting a report to your clients or superiors, would you?

 healthy foods that reduce bloating

healthy foods that reduce bloating

Fresh Fruits and Veggies Are Super Foods

As a rule fruits and vegetables are best eaten fresh instead of canned to retain their nutrients and healthful benefits. Some canned fruits and vegetables contain salt and preservatives which can stimulate intestinal gas. Papaya and pineapple are two of the most helpful anti-bloating fruits.

Papaya has the enzyme papain which, by the way, is best consumed when not fully ripe. This enzyme help stimulate active break down of gastrointestinal tract compounds for easy digestion. Chicken soup with an unripe papaya would definitely make a good dish. Pineapple, on the other hand, has bromelain that help breaks down proteins, pacify an upset stomach and prevent bloating or gas formation.

Leafy greens like lettuce, spinach, kale and chard are high in fiber, minerals and vitamins. Aside from preventing constipation, it helps in acidic indigestion, urinary tract infection and, of course, preventing intestinal gas formation. Throw in herbs and spices from your kitchen pantry like peppermint, ginger, chamomile and garlic to complete your round of natural gas reducers. Be careful with cauliflower, beans and broccoli though as these can sometimes do more harm than good to your stomach.

Avoid a bloated stomach on your wedding day

Avoid a bloated stomach on your wedding day

Excreting Fluid through Diuretic-Friendly Foods

An important aspect in healthy digestion is the flushing out of excess liquid waste out of your system. Natural foods that have diuretic effect are quiet aplenty. Celery, asparagus, bananas, cantaloupe, watermelon, and honeydew are just some of the natural foods high in diuretic effect. By regulating your body fluids, your body can develop healthy digestion offsetting the ill-effects of bloating.

How You Eat Matters Most

In all these, how you eat matters the most. Even if you have a balanced diet composed of the abovementioned items but when you do not chew and swallow your food appropriately, your efforts are for naught. If you are always busy, try consuming smoothies but steer clear of using drinking straws as it encourages extra air into your digestive tract. Perhaps, this is also high time that you remember not to talk when your mouth is full.

Three Affordable Spots to Top Your Retirement Destination List

Retirement sounds like a lot of fun because you are free to enjoy yourself throughout the day indulging in activities that you never used to have time for before. However, prior to actually sitting down and enjoying retired life, you have to plan out how much you are going to be spending on a monthly basis. Most people within the United States are either on some sort of a pension plan or social security which allows them to live out the rest of their lives in peace and relative comfort. But with the rise in living and accommodation costs, most retired couples now look towards other destinations to spend the remainder of their lives.

Though there are many destinations around the world to choose from, the ultimate choice depends upon your own preferences like the type of environment you choose to live in as well as the cost of living that you wish to incur. Let us take a look at some of the most popular destinations around the world where even couples with a modest amount of savings can live.

Best states for retirement aren't what you may think

Best states for retirement aren’t what you may think

Dubrovnik, Croatia

Dubrovnik has most of the attributes that any couple would look for when wanting to move abroad for the purpose of retirement. For those who love natural beauty and want to be able to live out their lives away from the rest of the world’s miseries then this tourist spot is perfect for retirement. Not only is this particular Eastern European haven affordable for people with yearly incomes of around $45,000 but it is also a pretty safe place to live in.

Primarily a coastal city, Dubrovnik will provide you with all of the good things that the Adriatic has to offer but at a price that you are going to love! If you choose to retire here, you will spend your life immersed in beauty and rich culture.

Bratislava, Slovakia

Most of you might probably be familiar with the fact that Slovakia is generally associated with an extremely low cost of living. That is why a lot of people have started to slowly move towards this European nation as an ideal spot for retirement. Rich in natural beauty, this particular city of Slovakia is dotted with historical castles. In fact, if you happen to be a history buff then you will definitely spend most of the remainder of your days exploring the rich history that this city and country has to offer. But don’t forget to check out the beer and culinary festivities that this city has to offer!

best places to retire in the U.S

best places to retire in the U.S

Costa Del Sol, Spain

Located within the Southern part of Spain, this is an extremely exciting place to live while also being quite affordable as compared to other similar spots within Europe. Moreover, now might be a good time to make an investment since Spain has been facing a lot of economic hardship that has resulted in the downfall of its real estate market. If you have the money right now, it would be a good idea to go down there and take a look around! Spain is also ranked number eight on the World’s Best Health Care List.

So why not take a look at some of the above mentioned spots? Who knows, you might just find the perfect spot to enjoy the rest of your life!

Easiest Ways for a Financial Raise in Small Businesses

Raising finance is a prime consideration in putting up a business and fund infusion becomes necessary at certain points in small and big businesses alike. The stage of the business and the cost of money can be an overwhelming task to decide on for better options.

Financing the Business in Three Simple Ways

Initial funding is a jump-start to profit and later attract outside capital with smooth operations.

  1. Sell your assets: Sell things you own from jewelry to time-shares, pool table, bags, and every thing you find saleable. Small multiple amounts can be surprisingly huge. You may decide to sell your car for a greater amasses. Put to mind that you can always replace them with new ones when financial stability happens and when the business commences with its operations and starts to gain profits.

  2. Make your home loan collateral: This may be an old trick but it is the best way to raise business financing as you get to control the process. Borrowing against equity will most likely cover your financial need and there is even less complication if no loan against the property exists. Ensure a margin for extra loan amount that could cover for monthly payments once the loan is approved and business does not pay yet. Mortgage refinancing is also an option for lower monthly payments.

  3. Loan from friends and family: Typically, a successful male friend or relative is a wise target and often appreciates the idea of having someone make money for him. Investments with friends and family have carry a greater setback when it comes to business failure. There is a tendency to react to the bad news with logic and emotions as well.

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Sources of Funds Available for Business Financing

Equipment leasing: The present inability to purchase equipment is resolved by this kind of loan. In general, bank financing is cheaper but harder to obtain. Installation and necessary training services are often part of the contract and you may choose the following options at the end of the lease term:

  • Purchase the equipment based on fixed amount or fair market value

  • Renew the lease contract

  • Lease new equipment

  • Return the leased equipment

Microloans: The loan program is funded by private and nonprofit intermediaries and available for working capital, furniture and fixtures, inventory and supplies, and machinery and equipment. Several banks are reluctant to these small business loans.

Private loan guarantees: A bank usually ignores businesses in an early stage in the absence of a guarantee investor. A loan guarantee is expensive than a traditional loan but provides better control for entrepreneurs in raising capital.

Social media can be used to strengthen links between HR and employees

Social media can be used to strengthen links between HR and employees

Minimizing Risk for Business Owners and Investors

Understanding risk mitigating milestones reduces the probability of business failures and forms part of good business planning.
Build an advisory board. Expert advices and recommendations never fail to help a business succeed.
Secure beta customers. These customers prove the demand for your business as they usually test for free your products and services due to their interest.
Secure partnerships. The viability of the business is better observed when others in the industry and positions you in success.

Understanding the risk profile is critical in raising finance for a business. It is your job to reduce your business risks and the risk of the investors and lenders as well. Accomplish the milestones of risk mitigation and your business is likely to succeed.